Love… it can really kick your ass. But at the same time, will you let it? If your girlfriend broke up with you and you still want her back, don’t you think there’s a way to get her? A specific set of moves and circumstances that will lead straight back into her heart?
I still love my ex girlfriend!
On the battlefield of dating, this is a common warcry. But what happens next? Do you sink to your knees and wring your hands at the sky, or do you fight to win back your relationship?
Look around. Couples get back together each and every day. There’s absolutely no reason you can’t be one of them. In every case, no matter what, there is always something you can do to win back your ex girlfriend. But whether or not you seek out and find the right path to get her back? That part is entirely up to you.
Whether you got dumped yesterday, last week, or even a year ago… you’re probably asking the same thing: “Okay I want my ex girlfriend back, what’s my first move?” Easy. The first thing you need to do is recognize that action doesn’t always equal results. In fact, when it comes to getting your girlfriend back? Sometimes inaction can go a lot further.
Let’s examine what happened when your ex broke up with you. Did you get upset? Beg her to reconsider? Maybe you held her hostage for a few hours while trying to get her to change her mind. Unfortunately for you, these were all bad moves. They turned your ex off immediately, because you became desperate and needy. Not only that, but the whole time you were trying to “talk” to her, you were only talking at her. You were only listening to your half of the conversation – only considering your own needs. Nevermind that your ex girlfriend carefully thought out her decision and was trying to present it to you in a calm, mature way… you threw all that over your shoulder in an effort to change her mind.
See where I’m going with this? You just got a small insight into what your girlfriend was thinking when she broke up with you.
So what happened next? Did you call your ex every day? Send her a billion text-messages? Did you drive to her house, or school or even worse, her job, just to “talk to her”? These things probably didn’t go too well. Your exgirlfriend most likely began avoiding you as much as possible, and not returning your calls. And as you felt her slipping away you probably tried to grab even tighter, making the whole situation even worse.
Then you figured “Hey… I still love my ex girlfriend… so I’ll write her a note!” Since she wouldn’t listen or talk to you, you thought a note was the next best thing. So you poured your heart out into a 20-page letter and tucked it beneath her wiperblade or left it on her doorstep, along with a dozen or so roses. And once again… no response. In fact, by now your ex girlfriend is starting to get a little bit afraid of you. Maybe she’s not telling you this, but it’s the truth.
Alright, enough of that for now. Hopefully you’ve gotten the picture. The real reason your exgirlfriend isn’t responding to you right now is because you overloaded her at a very critical time. This was a great opportunity for you to withdraw… disappear… and completely drop out of sight for a while, which would give your girlfriend the chance to really miss you. Instead, you went in the opposite direction – throwing yourself at her feet whenever you could. This was, and is, one of the reasons you haven’t been able to get your ex girlfriend back.
Now if you’re still in love with your ex girlfriend and you still want her back? The good news is there’s still hope. There are techniques that help will undo the damage you’ve done so far, as well as methods you can use to bring back your ex’s old feelings and emotions toward you. Remember when she loved you soo much? Those feelings are still there. Your ex girlfriend may have shelved them for now, in an effort to move on. That being said, there are ways of drawing out those feelings and recreating the beginning of your romance, when those initial sparks were overwhelming.
Winning back your ex girlfriend is a learnable skill. All it takes is patience, perseverance, and a step-by-step blueprint for success. There are simple ways to get your ex to call you, as well as other ways to help set up your first reunion date. All of these smaller steps help you know exactly what to do next and exactly when to do it – a much, much better way of winning her over than just trying things at random and hoping that they’ll work.
Airone Croks Persue – London 1998
Image by Airone THP TNB
I have been to London many times, but the first time I have wanted to paint there was in 1998. My contacts with the English scene were solely related to the fact I was exchanging magazines between Tribe Mag and Graphotism. So first thing, having no other hooks, I went to Graphotism’s headquarter to see if they could put me in touch with some trusted name.
I remember at that time Graphotism was located on the top floor of the old record store Mr. Bongo, in Soho. They advised me to go outside of a building that was hosting a streetwear trade fair where Prime (that if I’m not mistaken at that time collaboreted with Graphotism) should have been live painting. It was not hard to find him, accompanied by another writer, Pulse. Despite not knowing me, both were extremely cold towards me. Prime simply said that he had no time to help me. Pulse, while browsing Tribe’s pages (that I had brought in homage to introduce myself in some way), laughed and said that he never imagined that in Italy there were writers (it was 1998…) and that our pieces’ styles "looked really strange". My girlfriend, who accompanied me, immediatly dragged me away before the situation deterioreted. Even today, the episode is completely incomprehensible to me.
After a few days, I returned to the Graphotism’s office to bring the amount of Tribe Magz that we had agreed to exchange. I told that the meeting with Prime was disappointing and it was at this point that they made a call to a friend of them that maybe could have helped me. This guy said to be available and gave me a phone appointment for the next day: this was how I became friend with Croks. Croks proved to be the exact opposite of Prime and Pulse: so finally I painted in London! But most important I got a new friend and I was fortunate to meet one of the greatest stylers I’ve ever known… the photo speaks clearly: Croks’ piece is still actual today (2015). Over the years I got to meet and paint with Croks other times, in London and Milano, and thanks to him I met other cool writers from London with whom friendship continues to this day. Not all bad things comes to harm.
This photo is stolen from Skore, old Croks TRC partner (and great great writer!) on whose Flickr you’ll find all Croks pieces + other nice burners. Thanx mate!