Why My Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend Won’t Talk to Me – Find Out Real Reasons
Now, why won’t my Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend talk to me? This is not what you anticipated to happen. After the breakup you knew that things would be nervous and awkward for a while, but you hoped that you could get through this and stay friends. Perhaps you weren’t going to be bosom buddies, but you at least hoped that you would catch up or have a one-to-one conversation like you used to. This didn’t occur and you are asking why. In this article I have written ideas from me on what to do about reconciling with your ex, but you can use Psychological and Expert Tips to get your ex boyfriend back – links to my blog on what to do to get effective expert relationship strategies to reconcile with your ex is at the last paragraph of this article.
There are lots of explanations why your Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend isn’t talking to you now, it isn’t unavoidably mean that you have done anything wrong or that your Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend dislikes you either. You have to recognize a little bit about human psychology after break ups to work out what is going on in your ex’s head. This will allow you to understand why your Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend is acting the way that they are with you and reverse the circumstances to make your Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend actually desire to talk to you again.
A big problem is that people often focus on how the break up has affected them and how they are feeling, they seldom see things from their ex’s perspective. This is usual, emotions are involved here and thinking reasonably is not easy when you are going through heart break. It needs to be done nevertheless if you want to make your Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend talk to you again or even get them back in the future. Taking a step back and seeing how the break up has affected them is the key to knowing why your Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend doesn’t want to talk to you right now.
Every breakup condition is different, possibly your break up was a messy one and your Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend is concealing some pretty negative feelings towards you. Perhaps the break up was a mutual choice and you both agreed to stay friends but your Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend suddenly doesn’t seem interested in you any longer. Whatever your own personal circumstances, there are deep-rooted emotional and psychological explanations behind your ex’s behavior and these need to be understood properly.
Why Your Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend Won’t Discourse With You Because They Are Hurt
This is a pretty clear one. Break ups can take their toll tangibly, psychologically and sensitively. Your Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend may have faked that they were okay with the break up to save face, but is this truly the case? Did you ever halt to think that your Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend might just be finding things certainly hard and doesn’t know how to deal with it? When folks get hurt after a break up they tend to see the person who hurt them as the adversary. Your Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend knows that interrelating with you on any level will potentially hurt them again. They don’t want to expose themselves up to anymore hurt. Everything that you say or do could plunge them into despair all over again.
In a way they are protecting themselves from more hurt and upset. They are in self-preservation manner and need to deal with the break up internally. Phone calls and texts from you will only serve to further confuse them and put them back to square one in the break up course. It is not that they are not talking to you out of malice; they really can’t handle it right now because they are still in love with you.
So Your Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend Won’t Talk To You Just Because They Are Angry
Retaliation is a huge driving force behind why an Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend won’t talk. Someone who has been snubbed and rejected is going to be pretty pissed off about it. Possibly your Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend didn’t see the break up coming at all and they don’t fathom why it happened. Perchance you did something to hurt them and they can’t forgive you right now.
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This past weekend while shooting in downtown L.A. with my pal Marc Evans, aka Clearlight 1971 on Flickr, we ran into Bill outside Kindle’s Donuts at the corner of Century and Normandie near Inglewood close to midnight on Saturday night.
Kindle’s donuts was the original home of the very first Big Donut Drive in in Los Angeles back in 1950 and we’d stopped by to shoot it when Bill approached us about buying one of the most outrageous pairs of platform shoes I’d ever seen for . He said he needed the so he could buy his girlfriend a dozen donuts.
Marc told him that the boots were too amazing to be sold but offered him to participate in our portrait project. Bill quickly and easily agreed.
Bill told us that he was from Inglewood and that he’d found the shoes cleaning out an old apartment. The conversation quickly though changed from the boots to this long diatribe about how people were abusing the pharmaceutical process by getting too many refills on the same prescriptions and then selling all of these drugs for more money out on the street. It seemed very important to him that we understand that this was going on and that it should stop. He’d rattle off many different drug names, many of which I was unfamiliar with one right after the other, explaining how people were pulling this scam.
Bill told us that he was unemployed and on disability. Marc told Bill that I had a blog and Bill asked me if I could help promote him on the internet, maybe even get him some sort of a job. He said that maybe if people read about him through my blog that they’d be willing to hire him. He told me to direct people to soundlift.com/billengelke where they could find him online. He said that he had his own version of Stairway to Heaven on his site and his own version of the Rolling Stone’s "Spider and the Fly. I told him that I’d do a blog post about him and he was happy about that, "you just never know what might happen if people knew about me," he told me.
Bill also told us that he’d created a GEICO commercial and posted it to YouTube. He said he had produced it on a PC using Microsoft’s Flight Simulator software and made sure to point out that the clips he used were in the public domain. This seemed important to him. So that people would know that they were free to reuse his commercial if they wanted to. You can actually watch Bill’s GEICO commercial video on YouTube here.
We chatted with Bill a little more and then both Marc and I each gave him . He seemed really happy that he could now buy his dozen donuts from Kindle’s. He went straight to the counter and ordered an assorted dozen telling the donut cashier to include "as many creme filled as possible."
You can check out Marc’s photo of Bill here, and even better, Marc’s photo of Bill with the platform shoes that he’d originally tried selling to us here.