Well, you want to know how to get a girlfriend and my assumption is that you don’t want to have to approach dozens of women with the hopes that one of them will decide to say yes and go out on a date with you. Most guys have a hard time attracting a girlfriend and when they DO find one, they usually end up getting a little too attached to her and then they wonder why things are not flowing smoothly.
If you want to know how to get a girlfriend, then you cannot look for some theories on what attracts women. Rather, you have to take a look at things that have been proven to attract women and will continue to do so. Otherwise, you will end up running into dead end after dead end trying to figure out how to get a girlfriend.
Here are 4 keys to female attraction that should help you discover how to get a girlfriend:
1. You must be able to really figure out what kind of woman is right for you. Truth is, you could end up attracting a woman that is totally wrong for you and what would be the point in that? After all, I would think that your reasons for wanting to get a girlfriend have more to do with attracting a female that suits you, rather than just having any woman act as your girlfriend.
2. If you want to get a girlfriend, you have to look in new places. Having trouble meeting new women? Well, the quickest remedy for this is to get out and start looking at new places where you can meet new women. Don’t let yourself become a creature of comfort where you are unable to get out of a rut and start finding new women. You don’t have to just look in the usual places to attract a girlfriend.
3. Flirt with women wherever you go. You want to become comfortable and skilled when it comes to flirting with women and the more experience that you can muster up, the better off you will end up being. To get a girlfriend, you need to be the kind of guy that can flirt with just about any woman and at any time. This is not something to be taken lightly, as it can really broaden your horizons when it comes to attracting a girlfriend.
4. Make yourself get out and approach women, no matter what. This could be seen as a little bit of a pep talk, but you need to push yourself when it comes to approaching women. Face it, the way that the world works, the man is the one that needs to be able to make the approach.
These 4 tips can really help you out with getting a girlfriend, but the key is that you need to get off of your rear and do something, anything to attract a girlfriend. Sitting around and waiting for things to be different is not going to make it happen.
Died before their time
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musicians who died young. So young, in fact, that many of the performers on the following list did not reach their 40th birthday.
John Henry Bonham (31 May 1948 – 25 September 1980) was an English musician and songwriter, best known as the drummer of Led Zeppelin. Bonham was esteemed for his speed, power, fast right foot, distinctive sound, and "feel" for the groove. He is widely considered to be one of the greatest drummers in the history of rock music. Rolling Stone readers named him the "best drummer of all time" in 2011.
On 24 September 1980, Bonham was picked up by Led Zeppelin assistant Rex King to attend rehearsals at Bray Studios for an upcoming tour of the United States—the band’s first since 1977. During the journey, Bonham asked to stop for breakfast, where he drank four quadruple vodkas (sixteen shots, between 400–560 ml). He then continued to drink heavily after arriving at the rehearsals.
They stopped rehearsing late in the evening and the band retired to Page’s house, the Old Mill House in Clewer, Windsor. After midnight on 25 September, Bonham fell asleep; someone took him to bed and placed him on his side. Benji LeFevre (who had replaced Richard Cole as Led Zeppelin’s tour manager) and John Paul Jones found him dead the next afternoon. Bonham was 32 years old.
At the coroner’s inquest it emerged that in the 24 hours before he died, Bonham consumed approximately forty shots (1-1.4 liters) of 40% ABV vodka, after which he vomited and aspirated the vomitus, causing asphyxiation. A verdict of accidental death was returned at the inquest, held on 27 October 1980. An autopsy found no other drugs in Bonham’s body.
Colin Flooks (29 December 1947 – 5 April 1998), better known as Cozy Powell, was an English rock drummer, who made his name with many major rock bands like The Jeff Beck Group, Rainbow, Whitesnake and Black Sabbath.
THE SEVENTIES’ rocker Cozy Powell, who once said that he drove cars like he drummed – madly – was on the phone to his girlfriend as he hurtled down a motorway at 104mph without wearing his seatbelt, an inquest heard.
Powell died on 5 April 1998 following a car accident while driving his Saab 9000 at 104 mph (167 km/h) in bad weather on the M4 motorway near Bristol.
Powell was dating a married woman who was having troubles with her husband. Upset, she phoned him on 5 April 1998 and asked him to come quickly to her house which was approximately 35 miles away. As he was driving to her house she phoned him again and asked "Where are you?" He informed her he was on his way and then she heard him say "Oh shit!" followed by a loud bang.
Powell was ejected through the windscreen and died at the scene. According to the BBC report, at the time of the crash Powell’s blood-alcohol reading was over the legal limit, and he was not wearing a seat belt, in addition to talking with his girlfriend on his mobile phone. The official investigation also found evidence of a slow puncture in a rear tyre that, it was suggested, could well have caused a sudden collapse of the tyre with a consequent loss of control of the car.
In a statement, Ms Reeve said that Powell had just told her he was having problems finding fifth gear, and hoped the engine would not seize up as he was going so fast.
Then she heard him say: "Oh shit", and the line went silent.
She kept trying to ring him back until she realised something was wrong and contacted the police. Powell, 50, was found to be slightly over the drink-drive limit after the car spun, hit the central kerb, and came to rest on its roof.
Paul Forrest, the Bristol coroner, recorded a verdict of accidental death.
It would appear that Cozy was alone in his Saab 9000 when he lost control on the M4 motorway, and crashed between junctions 18 and 19 near Bristol. He died of his injuries in the hospital.
Mr Powell, who was over the drink-drive limit and not wearing a seat belt, had complained that he was having trouble finding fifth gear and said he hoped the engine would not seize up because he was driving so fast.
The Saab suffered a rear tyre puncture shortly afterwards that sent it spinning out of control. It hit the central reservation and rolled several times before coming to rest on a grass verge.
Pc Ian Cater, who was off-duty and travelling in the opposite direction at the time of the accident, said he saw Mr Powell’s car come "cartwheeling" past him before it landed on its roof.
Cozy’s funeral took place on Saturday 18 April at a crematorium in Wiltshire, which is about 90 miles west of London. It was a simple service, with hymns and prayers, as well as a reading by a friend of Cozy’s, keyboard player Jim Johnson, and an emotional tribute by one of Cozy’s closest friends, Frank Aiello, who was the singer with Bedlam and Hammer. The service ended with ‘Let It Be’ by the Beatles.
There were dozens of floral arrangements and wreaths, with messages of sympathy from Tony Iommi, Geoff Nicholls, Tony Martin, David Coverdale and many others. Those attending in person included Brian May, Jeff Beck, Peter Green, Don Airey, Glen Tipton (Judas Priest), Denny Ball (Bedlam), Spike Edney and Jamie Moses (Brian May Band) along with family members and other close friends. There are no definite plans for a memorial/tribute event, but I’m sure that something will be organised after people have had time to get over the initial shock of Cozy’s death.
He was living at Lambourn in Berkshire at the time and had returned to the studio shortly before his death to record with Fleetwood Mac co-founder Peter Green. At the time of death Cozy had recently had to pull out of tour rehearsals with Yngwie Malmsteen, having suffered an injury in a motorcycle accident. One of his last phone calls, to his fanclub editor, was to express distress about this, but also enthusiasm of the then forthcoming Brian May tour. By that time, he had been the drummer on at least 66 albums with minor contributions on many other recordings. Many rock drummers have cited him as a major influence.
Stuart Fergusson Victor Sutcliffe (23 June 1940 – 10 April 1962) was a Scottish-born artist and musician best known as the original bassist for the Beatles. Sutcliffe left the band to pursue his career as an artist, having previously attended the Liverpool College of Art. Sutcliffe and John Lennon are credited with inventing the name, "Beetles", as they both liked Buddy Holly’s band, the Crickets. The band used this name for a while until Lennon decided to change the name to "the Beatles", from the word Beat. As a member of the group when it was a five-piece band, Sutcliffe is one of several people sometimes referred to as the "Fifth Beatle".
When the Beatles played in Hamburg, he met photographer Astrid Kirchherr, to whom he was later engaged. After leaving the Beatles, he enrolled in the Hamburg College of Art, studying under future pop artist, Eduardo Paolozzi, who later wrote a report stating that Sutcliffe was one of his best students. Sutcliffe earned other praise for his paintings, which mostly explored a style related to abstract expressionism.
While studying in Germany, Sutcliffe began experiencing severe headaches and acute sensitivity to light. In the first days of April 1962, he collapsed in the middle of an art class after complaining of head pains. German doctors performed various checks, but were unable to determine the exact cause of his headaches. On 10 April 1962, he was taken to hospital, but died in the ambulance on the way. The cause of death was later revealed to have been an aneurysm in his brain’s right hemisphere.
Otis Ray Redding, Jr. (September 9, 1941 – December 10, 1967) was an American singer-songwriter, record producer, arranger and talent scout. He is considered one of the greatest singers in the history of American popular music and a seminal artist in soul and rhythm and blues. His singing style was powerfully influential among soul artists of 1960s and helped exemplify the Stax sound.
By 1967 the band was traveling to gigs on Redding’s Beechcraft H18. On December 9, 1967, they appeared on the Upbeat television show produced in Cleveland. They played three concerts in two nights at a small club called Leo’s Casino. After a phone call with Zelma and their children, Redding’s next stop was Madison, Wisconsin; the next day they were to play at the Factory nightclub near the University of Wisconsin.
Although the weather was poor, with heavy rain and fog and despite warnings, the plane took off. Four miles from their destination at Truax Field in Madison, the pilot radioed for permission to land. Shortly thereafter, the plane crashed into Lake Monona.
Bar-Kays member Ben Cauley, the accident’s only survivor, was sleeping shortly before the accident. He woke just before impact to see bandmate Phalon Jones look out a window and exclaim, "Oh, no!" Cauley said the last thing he remembered before the crash was unbuckling his seat belt. He then found himself in frigid water, grasping a seat cushion to keep afloat.
A non-swimmer, he was unable to rescue the others. The cause of the crash was never determined. James Brown claimed in his autobiography, The Godfather of Soul, that he had warned Redding not to fly in the plane.
Aretha Franklin stated, "I heard it on the TV. My sister Caroline and I stopped everything and stayed glued to the TV and radio. It was a tragedy. Shocking."
Other victims were pilot Richard Fraser, drummer Matthew Kelly, lead guitarist of the Bar-Kays Jimmy King, tenor saxophonist Phalon Jones, organist Ronnie Caldwell and drummer Carl Cunningham.
Redding’s body was recovered the next day when the lake bed was searched. The family postponed the funeral from December 15 to December 18 so that more could attend.
The service took place at the City Auditorium in Macon. More than 4,500 people came to the funeral, overflowing the 3,000-seat hall, although many did not know who he was. Johnny Jenkins and Isaac Hayes did not come, fearing their reaction would be worse than Zelma Redding’s.
Redding was entombed at his ranch in Round Oak, about 20 miles (32 km) north of Macon. Jerry Wexler delivered the eulogy. Redding died just three days after recording Dock of the Bay. He was survived by Zelma and three children, Otis III, Dexter and Karla. Otis, Dexter and cousin Mark Lockett later founded the Reddings, a band managed by Zelma.
She also maintained or worked at the janitorial service Maids Over Macon, several nightclubs and booking agencies. On November 8, 1997, a memorial plaque was placed on the lakeside deck of the Madison convention center, Monona Terrace.
Marvin Gaye (April 2, 1939 – April 1, 1984), born Marvin Pentz Gay, Jr., was an American singer-songwriter and musician.
Gaye helped to shape the sound of Motown Records in the 1960s with a string of hits, including "How Sweet It Is (To Be Loved By You)" and "I Heard It Through the Grapevine", and duet recordings with Mary Wells and Tammi Terrell, later earning the titles "Prince of Motown" and "Prince of Soul". During the 1970s, he recorded the concept albums What’s Going On and Let’s Get It On and became one of the first artists in Motown to break away from the reins of its production company.
The Reverend Marvin Pentz Gay Sr. (October 1, 1914 – October 10, 1998) was an American minister of the House of God. He was the father of American recording artist Marvin Gaye and gained notoriety after shooting and killing him on April 1, 1984 following an argument at their Los Angeles home.
At around 11:38 am (PST) on April 1, 1984, as Marvin was seated on his bed talking to his mother, Gaye’s father shot Marvin twice. The first shot, which entered the right side of Gaye’s chest, was fatal, having perforated his vital organs. Gaye was taken to the emergency room of the California Hospital Medical Center and was pronounced dead on arrival at 1:01 pm (PST). Gaye died a day before turning 45. The gun with which Marvin Gay, Sr. shot his son, was given to him by Marvin, as a Christmas present, to keep Marvin safe from intruders.
Following his funeral, Marvin was cremated with part of his ashes spread near the Pacific Ocean. Gaye did not leave behind a will or an insurance policy at the time of his death.
During his first police interview, Gay snr, would tell cops that he didn’t mean to shoot him, but that he had been scared that he would be hurt and only shot him in self-defense. When the police asked him if he loved his son, Gay softly told them, "let’s say I didn’t dislike him." When the police later told Gay that his son had died from his shots, he reportedly sobbed and wept uncontrollably before he was taken to prison and was promptly charged with first-degree murder for his son’s death.
Gaye’s father pleaded no contest to a voluntary manslaughter charge and was sentenced to probation. He later died of pneumonia in 1998. Marvin’s fans have held vigils for the singer at the final residence to celebrate the day of his birth.
Samuel "Sam" Cooke (January 22, 1931 – December 11, 1964) was an American recording artist and singer-songwriter, generally considered among the greatest of all time. Influential as both a singer and composer, he is commonly known as the King of Soul for his distinctive vocals and importance within popular music.
His pioneering contributions to soul music led to the rise of Aretha Franklin, Bobby Womack, Al Green, Curtis Mayfield, Stevie Wonder, Marvin Gaye, Billy Preston and popularized the likes of Otis Redding and James Brown. AllMusic biographer Bruce Eder wrote that Cooke was "the inventor of soul music", and possessed "an incredible natural singing voice and a smooth, effortless delivery that has never been surpassed."
Cooke died at the age of 33 on December 11, 1964, at the Hacienda Motel at 9137 South Figueroa Street, in Los Angeles, California. Answering separate reports of a shooting and of a kidnapping at the motel, police found Cooke’s body, clad only in a sports jacket and shoes but no shirt, pants or underwear. He had sustained a gunshot wound to the chest, which was later determined to have pierced his heart.
The motel’s manager, Bertha Franklin, said she had shot Cooke in self-defense after he broke into her office residence and attacked her. Her account was immediately questioned and disputed by friends and acquaintances.
The official police record says that Franklin fatally shot Cooke, who had checked in earlier that evening. Franklin claimed that Cooke had broken into the manager’s office-apartment in a rage, wearing nothing but a shoe and a sports coat, demanding to know the whereabouts of a woman who had accompanied him to the hotel. Franklin said the woman was not in the office and that she told Cooke this, but the enraged Cooke did not believe her and violently grabbed her, demanding again to know the woman’s whereabouts.
According to Franklin, she grappled with Cooke, the two of them fell to the floor, and she then got up and ran to retrieve her gun. She said she then fired at Cooke in self-defense because she feared for her life. Cooke was struck once in the torso and, according to Franklin, he exclaimed, "Lady, you shot me", before mounting a last charge at her. She said she beat him over his head with a broomstick before he finally fell, mortally wounded by the gunshot.
According to Franklin and the motel’s owner, Evelyn Carr (some sources identify the motel owner’s last name as "Card"), they had been on the telephone together at the time of the incident. Thus, Carr claimed to have overheard Cooke’s intrusion and the ensuing conflict and gunshot. Carr called the police to request that officers go to the motel, telling them she believed a shooting had occurred.
Some of Cooke’s family and supporters, however, have rejected Boyer’s version of events, as well as those given by Franklin and Carr. They believe there was a conspiracy to murder Cooke, and the murder took place in some manner entirely different from the three official accounts.
Singer Etta James wrote that her viewing of Cooke’s body, before his funeral, led her to join those who question the accuracy of the official version of events. She said the injuries she observed were well beyond what could be explained by the official account of Franklin’s alone having fought with Cooke. James described Cooke as having been so badly beaten that his head was nearly separated from his shoulders, his hands were broken and crushed, and his nose mangled.
No concrete evidence supporting a criminal conspiracy has been presented to date.
A coroner’s inquest was convened to investigate the incident.
The woman who had accompanied Cooke to the motel was identified as Elisa Boyer, who had also called the police that night shortly before Carr had. Boyer had called the police from a telephone booth near the motel, telling them she had just escaped being kidnapped.
John Henry Rostill (16 June 1942 – 26 November 1973) was an English bassist and composer, recruited by The Shadows to replace Brian Locking.
Stylistically, Rostill combined the solidity of Brian Locking and the adventurousness of Jet Harris. Many of his bass lines were heavily syncopated and he developed a range of new sounds on the Burns bass during his time with the group, a longer period than Harris and Locking put together. To many players, Rostill was ahead of his time and included double-stopping in his technique. Unusually, for that time, Rostill sometimes played bass finger-style as well as with a plectrum, depending on the sound he wanted.
John Rostill died in Radlett, England, on 26 November 1973. He was electrocuted by his guitar owing to faulty or incorrectly earthed electrical equipment. His body was found by Bruce Welch.
He was survived by his wife Margaret and his son Paul (a year old when his father died).
Sid Vicious, born John Simon Ritchie, later named John Beverley (10 May 1957 – 2 February 1979), was an English bass guitarist and vocalist, most famous as a member of the influential punk group the Sex Pistols.
Nancy Laura Spungen (February 27, 1958 – October 12, 1978) was the girlfriend of Sex Pistols bassist Sid Vicious and a figure of the 1970s punk rock scene. Spungen’s life, and her death, have been the subject of controversy among music historians and fans of the Sex Pistols.
Raised in Philadelphia, Spungen was an emotionally disturbed child who was diagnosed with schizophrenia at the age of 15. After being expelled from college, she went to London at the height of the punk rock craze and became involved with Sid Vicious. Their relationship was punctuated by bouts of domestic violence and drug abuse. The press soon labelled Spungen "Nauseating Nancy" for her shocking behavior. After the Sex Pistols disbanded, the couple moved to New York City and checked into the Hotel Chelsea. They spent their days consuming drugs and were regularly visited by drug dealers.
In October 1978, Spungen was found dead in the bathroom of the couple’s room, of a single stab wound to the abdomen. Sid Vicious was charged with her murder but died of a heroin overdose in February 1979, before the case went to trial. Various authors and filmmakers have speculated about Vicious’ role in Spungen’s death and the possibility that Spungen was killed by a drug dealer who frequented their room.
On 22 October, ten days after Spungen’s death, Vicious attempted suicide by slitting his wrist with a smashed light bulb and was subsequently hospitalized at Bellevue Hospital where he also tried killing himself by jumping from a window as well as shouting "I want to be with my Nancy" or other similar words, but got pulled back by hospital staff. In an interview he gave in November 1978, he said that Nancy’s death was "meant to happen" and that "Nancy always said she’d die before she was 21."
Near the end of the interview, he was asked if he was having fun. In reply, he asked the interviewer if he was kidding, adding that he would like to be "under the ground." It was also at Bellevue that he met his lawyer James Merberg, who did everything he could to keep Vicious out of jail.
Second arrest: assault
He was charged with assault after attacking Todd Smith, singer Patti Smith’s brother, at a Skafish concert at Hurrah; a New York dance club. Peter Kodick and Steve Dior were there to grab him, and the chaos that followed consisted of people chasing the trio down the street and potentially causing a lot more trouble at the bar.
Vicious was arrested on December 9, 1978 and sent to Rikers Island metro jail for fifty-five days to undergo a painful and enforced detoxification. It was revealed in the pilot episode of Final 24 that Sid was raped, abused, attacked and subjected to various other humiliating assaults, but no one has reported witnessing these events. He was released on bail on February 1, 1979.
Bail was originally set at ,000., but lowered after court hearings and negotiations from his lawyer. Malcolm McLaren, the Sex Pistols’ manager, worked to raise money and the bond was eventually covered by Virgin Records. John Lydon has stated that Mick Jagger stepped in and paid for the lawyers for Vicious, and has praised Jagger for never seeking any publicity for this.
1979: Sid Vicious dies from drugs overdose
Sex Pistols’ bass player Sid Vicious has died of a heroin overdose in New York.
His mother, Anne Beverley, found him dead in bed with his sleeping girlfriend in an apartment in Greenwich Village this morning.
There had been a party in the flat to celebrate Mr Vicious’ release on ,000 bail yesterday pending his trial for the murder of his former girlfriend, Nancy Spungen, last October.
The precise details of his death are unknown but party guests say Sid Vicious – real name John Simon Ritchie – took some heroin at midnight.
His mother, once a registered addict, said: "He knew the smack was pure and strong and took a lot less than usual."
Shortly after taking the drug Mr Vicious, 21, collapsed, went into seizure and displayed the symptoms of overdose.
He revived 40 minutes later and went to bed with his girlfriend, Michelle Robinson, at about 0300 local time.
The first police officer on the scene later in the morning was Robert Zink who discovered "a syringe, a spoon and what is probably residue near the body."
The troubled punk musician – renowned for his violent behaviour – had been on a detoxification, methadone programme in prison, but he had developed a £40 a day habit since meeting Miss Spungen last year.
It was the second time Virgin Records – the Sex Pistols’ label – had to bail out Sid Vicious.
He was re-arrested after his initial bail for assaulting Patti Smith’s brother, Todd, in a New York disco and had just served another 55 days in prison.
A spokesman for Virgin boss Richard Branson said: "In retrospect he was obviously far safer in jail where the temptations that ultimately killed him were not present."
Sex Pistols’ manager Malcolm McClaren – who was planning a comeback for the band – also blames the person who gave him the heroin at the party.