As men, we all know the painful time it can be when you have broken up with your girlfriend and the only thing that you want to do is find a way to attract her back. For this reason alone, you should feel a bit better, as even the guys that have gotten their girlfriends to come back have also had to deal with this feeling. That’s not to imply that you don’t have a right to feel down about things right now, just a reminder that you can and will make them better once you learn how to attract your girlfriend back to you.
There are many reasons why you might have broken up with your girlfriend.
She might have felt as though you were not giving her enough of your time. Or you might have gotten caught in a lie. Worse off, you might have actually cheated on her or something like this. The thing is, as impossible as it might seem, not one of these situations is really impossible. There are certain things that will trigger your ex girlfriend to WANT to come back to you. As long as you know what these triggers are and how to pull them, you will be able to pull your girlfriend back to you.
So, what are some things that will help you to get your girlfriend back?
1. Time. I know it may sound like the last answer that you want to hear, but a little time will do you and her a lot of good right now. Keep in mind that I do not mean years or months or anything like that. Just a little time where you can collect your thoughts and allow her to have the proper space that she needs to deal with the situation. You don’t want your ex girlfriend to feel pressured by you in any way. This is not going to make her want to return to you. To get your girlfriend back, you have to allow her some time to cope.
2. Strategy. The worse thing that you can do is try and proceed to get your girlfriend back without the use of a real strategy. This is an area of your life where you do NOT want to mess things up. So, you have to employ the proper strategy to win your girlfriend back. Without the proper use of a well drawn up plan to attract her back, getting your girlfriend back will be a terrible experience of ups and downs. Probably more downs than ups.
3. Composure. You have to remain calm, cool, and collected during these times. If you lose your cool and blow a fuse, what is there to entice her to come back to you? Getting your girlfriend back requires that you DO the things that will make her feel as though breaking up with you was the worst mistake SHE could have made. And to make her feel this way, you have to proceed like a cool cat to win her back.
While you may initially feel as though your situation with your ex girlfriend is too far gone, it’s probably not. There are many little tricks that you can learn to make her desire you again and want to come back to you. Getting your girlfriend back is NOT impossible, it’s highly probable. You just have to know and use what works to get your girlfriend back.
What do New Yorkers do on a hot Sunday afternoon at the end of July?
Typically, between one and two million (yes, million) of them head to a nearby park to relax and enjoy themselves. That might mean heading to Central Park, or Prospect Park, or one of the dozens of other parks scattered throughout the five boroughs of the city. But if you live on the Upper West Side of Manhattan, one of the more tempting choices is Riverside Park, which stretches along the Hudson River from 59th Street up to 125th Street, and even further north (if you’re somewhat adventurous) to the George Washington Bridge.
It’s a relatively narrow park, but there’s enough grass to stretch out and sunbathe, or enjoy a picnic. Or you can find a shady spot under a tree, and read a book or the Sunday New York Times. Swimming in the river is not encouraged, but fishing is okay; or you can rent a (free) kayak down by the 70th Street pier, and paddle around in the river to enjoy a cool breeze. For the more athletically inclined, there are tennis courts (at 96th Street), soccer fields (a little further north), and baseball diamonds (a little further south).
But since there’s a wide, paved walkway that stretches along the entire distance of the park, a lot of people seem compelled — even in hot, humid weather — to jog, run, walk, skate, or bicycle along the river. It’s a great opportunity to show off your fancy bike, or your fancy skates, or your handsome/beautiful body; and it’s hard to beat the view and the scenery.
I came down here to Riverside Park some four months ago to photograph the biking/jogging/skating action, which you see on Flickr in a set I called Riverside Park – first day of spring, Mar 20, 2011. But it was still pretty cold, so most people were bundled up to stay warm.
Today, on this last day of July, nobody was bundled up. True, nobody was running naked, and I didn’t see anyone in a bikini; but brief shorts and t-shirts were pretty universal … except for the guys who wore shorts and no shirt at all.
In my usual fashion, I took quite a few photos — 800 in all, as people continued skating, jogging, walking, and riding past me. About 10% of them were out of focus, or cut off (a running body with no head is not all that interesting), and another 80% were okay, but relatively boring. So, as usual, 90% of the photos got deleted, and I’ve got 80 "keepers" to share with everyone on Flickr.
I have a feeling that I won’t bother with any more summer photos along the river, like this. But I may come back in the fall, when the leaves have turned and the air is crisp and cool. Who knows what everyone will be wearing at that point?