Without a doubt, you know that what you are missing in your life right now is a special woman. That makes you think that you really do need to figure out how to get a girlfriend soon, because you are not ready to think about what it would be like for you to be single for the rest of your life. You really don’t want to be one of those guys who always seems to be without a girlfriend, but you do have a problem that you need to solve right away. You need to get some good guidance on how to attract a girlfriend so that you can have an easier time with women. That way, you would have a much better chance at making a woman want to date you.
There can be numerous answers for why you are not attracting a girlfriend right now or in the past, but you know what? The main thing is that you learn what you need to learn so that you do end up with one in your future. That is really what matters most if you want things to change and you want to be able to attract a very special woman into your life without having to wait forever for it to happen. With the right tips, I am sure that you can attract someone very soon, even if your past seems to say otherwise.
Here are 5 tips for guys who want to get a girlfriend now:
1. If you want to get a girlfriend, you have to be ready to get rejected.
I have to say this because this is one of the reasons why so many guys who want to attract someone into their life don’t. They are too afraid that they are going to be hurt by rejection and to protect themselves from that every happening, they end up avoiding any chances that this could happen. The problem is, when you avoid a possible rejection, you are also avoiding a chance to get to know someone and a chance to get a date with a lovely woman. You can’t have one without the potential for the other, so you have to get used to the idea that a woman might turn you down even if you really like her a lot.
2. One of the best things that you can do is become more interesting to be around.
Boring guys make for boring dates and your average woman knows that this is the way that it is. So, when you meet a woman and you give her the impression that you are just another boring guy, then she really has no reason at all to want to go out on a date with you. There is a way to get around this and that is, to become a little more interesting as a guy. Do things with your life that make for great conversation and you are going to see that there are many women who want to be around you just because you are someone who is interesting to be around.
3. To be able to attract a woman who wants to be with you, you are going to have to make the approach.
If you assume that there is some method that you can learn right away that is going to make it so that women want to approach you, think again. With time and experience, you can learn to do certain things that will make women want to approach you, but in the beginning, you are going to have to be able to do the approach no matter what you feel about it. Even if you are nervous about what might happen, you need to be able to get past that feeling and just go with the fact that if you walk on over to her, then you might be able to get a woman’s number and later on a date with her.
4. The better dressed you are, the easier it is to attract female attention.
How bad do you want to have women gawking at you and looking like they want to get to know you? Well, one of the things that you can do is to get better clothes and spruce up the way that you look. When you redo your appearance and make yourself look better than ever, you are going to be extremely confident. And when you act extremely confident, then you will be attractive to women and they will pay attention to you. Most guys will never get that kind of attention, but it is easy to get when you are a well dressed man who is very confident about the way that you look.
5. As simple as it sounds, you are going to have to play the odds a little bit.
It’s easy to get a girlfriend when you have 10 prospects, but it is hard when you have none. What you can do to make the whole process of trying to get a girlfriend seem a lot easier for yourself is to play the odds. Get to know as many women as you can. Go out and meet women wherever you can and if you find that there is more than one woman you are into, go with it. You never know how things are going to play out and the more options that you have, the more likely it is that you will end up with the girlfriend that you want to have.
CINEASTE365: “Taxi Driver” – Martin Scorsese (November 17, 2013 – Day 036)
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Cineaste365 (November 17, 2013 – Day 036): Today’s selection for Cineaste365 goes to Martin Scorsese’s "Taxi Driver" starring Robert De Niro, Cybill Sheperd, Jodie Foster, Harvey Keitel, Albert Brooks and many more.
"Taxi Driver" is one of those intriguing films to watch and discuss for cinema and Scorsese fans. You can go on a forum, you can have conversations about this film and each person can give you their interpretation of what "Taxi Driver" mean to them.
I didn’t grow up in New York City during the ’70s but I did grow up during that time to know that the city had some major problems and was overtaken by prostitutes, adult theaters and it was pretty much a seedy area unlike today’s New York City which has been cleaned up considerably since the making of this film.
But for many Americans, Travis Bickle, despite being one of the most vile villains in cinema history, he was an anti-hero that some people could identify with. This is a man who is lonely, isolated and really wants to fit into society but he can’t. He wants to be with women he can save, but they don’t want to be saved.
When Travis meets Betsy, he talks about the look on her face of not being happy of where she works and you have this sense that he really wants to help her get away from what he sees as scum of the city and brings her into his world. But his world is even seedier as he spends most of his life driving a taxi and watching porn and the only thing he can think of as a first date with Betsy is taking her out to an adult movie.
And it’s this uneasiness of this character that attracts the viewer because we’ve all felt that loneliness that Travis has felt, but we deal with it. For him, he sinks into the darkness of isolation and this version of Sir Lancelot has been corrupted by the city.
But what makes "Taxi Driver" work effectively is director Martin Scorsese and his relationship with Robert De Niro. Both men developed a tremendous working relationship since the 1973 film "Mean Streets" and with De Niro being a fantastic method actor, Scorsese allows De Niro to own the scene and those actors who are around him, to feed off this character. In interviews which you will see on this Blu-ray release, when actress Cybill Shepherd, Jodie Foster or actors Albert Brooks, Peter Boyle or Harvey Keitel were around De Niro, what they got was Travis Bickle. Shepherd used the word "frightening" during her scenes with De Niro, Foster talked about how she didn’t understand until later in life of why De Niro had this intense style of acting and Brooks would talk about how he never even talked to De Niro because De Niro during the shooting of the film was Travis Bickle.
Scorsese and De Niro utilized improvisation to make the film seem real. Foster talked about how they would continually rehearse their scenes and once she felt that they got it down, he would do something different and throw something that was not on the script and it’s that magic that De Niro was able to get from the talent he worked with. Another fantastic sign of that working relationship between De Niro and Scorsese is the taxi scene in which both men are improvising their scene but for Travis Bickle’s character, he remains quiet, looking at his rear-view mirror and watching the silhouette of the man’s wife from a window at an apartment. You can tell that Travis Bickle’s ticking time-bomb is about to go off. It’s that creepy quietness by Bickle that makes that scene so effective. It may not have been written that way but it’s what De Niro felt was right for Travis Bickle and it’s what we got on the film.
But alongside Scorsese and De Niro, you have to give writer Paul Schrader a major nod for creating this Bressonian script with so much efficacy. Written during a time when Schrader had broken up with his girlfriend, he became isolated and also found himself a different person after that breakup, which helped develop the character of Travis Bickle. He knew that loneliness and it’s that same loneliness that many people go through during a major change in their personal life. It’s how you get out of it and live life to its fullest that matters but for very few, they are slowly get stuck in that darkness. Travis Bickle is a man who is unable to be part of that normal society.
You can discuss this character with a lot of people. Was it the Vietnam War that changed him for the worse? Was it the continual inundation of that New York’s seediness and that he has to be with these people 12 hours a day? Does it even matter? We just know that Travis Bickle is one fucked up man and in many ways, is a perfect example of what happens when one gets lost in their own loneliness and may it be the people like Bickle or John Hinckley, Jr., there is so much pain in the world that some people just don’t know how to deal with it. And the fact that people got to see a taste of this anti-hero was absolutely surprising but at the same time, intriguing and entertaining.
There is little doubt that Martin Scorsese has created a masterpiece.
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